Monday, August 16, 2010

What do do when you love someone, and they aren't interested in a relationship.?

I have fallen in love with a girl. She is a friend, and she is always around when I spend time with my friends. One night, when we were drinking, I asked her if we could date, she said ok. We spent time together at a concert with friends that week, it was great. We get along beautifully, and both seem to find interest in each other. After a week, we had a conversation and she told me that she was not interested in a relationship with me. I said ok, and that I would try to not make any advances, and try to get over my feelings for her. We are still friends, and see each other at least once a week with other friends around. Last weekend there was a party at her house. Neither of us are sexually active, but we ended up being very close with each other, and sleeping in the same bed. Admittedly we were probably drunk, as it seems that whenever I see her (now) the situation lends itself to that...even though I enjoy her company even better with the absence of drinking. It was great just holding each other, breathing in unison. The next day it was like it never happened. I didn't say anything. I saw her tonight, and decided that I had to leave...out of respect for her, knowing that I could not spend time with her without becoming more attached. I don't know what to do because I don't want to bring up dating because she said she didn't want to. At the same time we are close friends, and I want to retain that, but I feel wrong having feelings for her if she doesn't for me. I can't get her out of my mind. I tried to date another girl, who is plenty attractive, and I get along great with, and really wanted to date but didn't have the courage to ask at one time. I went and spent time with her (the other girl) last weekend, and we talked about dating but I couldn't do it because am in love with this girl. I also feel that I love her unconditionally, it is not physical (I understand wanting to be with a girl because of that, and this is not it), although she is attractive, it is because of her personality and how she views the world, how she handles situations, how she talks, everything. I love the best and the worst of her equally. I want to be with her everyday of my life, and can't see myself with anyone else. Should I just keep seeing her and hope that she will someday love me back? Should I remove myself from my friends (who I am very close to) so that I can get over her (if that's even possible). Should I tell her something? I am lost, I am in love, and I wish that I had never met her because then my world would just be normal, not sad. I feel like I have spent my whole life looking for this person, I found her, and now I can't feel right about loving her. What do do when you love someone, and they aren't interested in a relationship.?
long story ay.... move on.... you still has life to find another..What do do when you love someone, and they aren't interested in a relationship.?
juzz send her some gifts which with what girls impress very easily....and lovable cards....if she still ignores u take her to a nearby house close the windows and doors and start of..
If you don't tell her how you feel you may never get another chance. She probably doesn't know how serious you are about her. Just hoping that she'll start loving you back isn't going to get you anywhere. If you tell her and she rejects you then there's nothing left to do but move on. but that's better than suffering in silence for who knows how long and wondering what could have been. If worst comes to worst you may not have to give up your other friends. Just hang out when she's not around. Or tell them that you can't spend time with them when she's there. I'm sure they'd understand if you're that close.

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