In a Relationship With a Man who is Separated from his Wife - Conclusion?

Thanks for a start to all those who responded. What I could draw from your response(s) are as follows





1.) There are those who believe I should stick with him if we feel we are meant for each other and I concur.





2.) There are those who believe, I should give him time to sort himself out i.e get his divorce first etc. I concur.


And then there are





3.) Those who insists, it will not work. He has to stay married to someone he doesn't love and make it work because he made a commitment when he married her.





And to the third group of people, my question(s) is this.





Do you believe it is possible to make the wrong choice with regards a marriage partner? If this happens what then do you do?





Which is worse. Coming out clean as he has done and do the right thing by getting a divorce and re-marrying than staying in a relationship with someone you don't love and end up cheating around town and perhaps fathering kids outside of wedlock?





Are those who made genuine mistakes guilty and condemned to remaining with someone they don't love for the rest of their lives even if it robs them of their happiness? I use the word genuine as there are men who have good/genuine reasons as oppopsed to those who simply cannot control themselves when it comes to women and lastly





Would YOU, if you were at the receiving end i.e the wife, stay in a marriage knowing quite well that there is no love or that your partner does not love you? Would you not rather leave so that you have the chance of meeting someone who will love you?





So to the third group, I say how for heaven's sake does saying that the man stay in a marriage that was deviod of love from the start and still is make any sense? Please lets put heads together and reason. All responses welcome.In a Relationship With a Man who is Separated from his Wife - Conclusion?
I didn't see your first question but I don't agree with anyone staying in a marriage that isn't in love with their partner and isn't happy. It isn't fair to themselves OR their partner.


Look at today's marriage statistics, for goodness sakes, most of us tend to make mistakes. Doesn't mean we should live the rest of our lives suffering. Imagine spending your life with a partner that you have come to learn just isn't the right one? What a lonely, sad life that would be for BOTH husband and wife.


I say be honest with the partner even if it stings. In the long run, both will enjoy life a whole bunch more than living a lie.In a Relationship With a Man who is Separated from his Wife - Conclusion?
I think too many marriages fail due to getting married for the wrong reasons. I think that things become complicated once kids are in the picture. I would not stay in a marriage where there is no love. I could say more about this, but it would be a long response.
Get into a polygamy relationship; its not sinful like yours is.





Type in ';polygamy'; in youtube.





Its allowed if done spritually... don't be a stupid person and get the married guy and you deep sinful crap.
That's great and all but if you are going to ask people for their opinions that's what you're going to get. Nothing wrong with a good challenge but like I said you ASKED for opinions. If you can't handle it, don't ask.
if someone did not love me i wouldn't want to stay married to them, but u should wait until he is divorced to be in a relationship with him. u only know his side of the story, u never heard hers.
You're channeling Tolstoy. Seriously.
Make your own decisions, for goodness sake.
Drum roll please....who cares.
Well if the man asked the woman to marry him, and then I said their vows, he should be man enough to honor his commitment.





He didn't have to ask the girl, he didn't have to say ';I do';, but since he did he needs to work through it.





Marriage isn't easy, if he once cared enough about her to say ';marry me and let's spend the rest of our lives together'; then he ought to try and to rekindle that which he's lost.





The only one who really has reason to end anything is the wife. She's the one who has been lied to and cheated on, if she's forgiving and willing enough to try and work it out then LEAVE THEM ALONE.





Don't be a homewrecker. Why are you going after a married man anyways; poor poor judgment on your part and how dare you?!?!!?





PS. Just remember if he'll do it for you, he'll do it to you. :)
He is MARRIED. You are dealing with someone who has a wife seperated or not. Dont be surprised when he changes his mind about what he wants with you. Time is what both of you need. You are in the middle of unfinished business, he made vows and commitments when they married, dont end up being the rebound girl. You could just be someone who will soften the blow when reality hits..
I would not want to be with anyone who didn't want to be with me, regardless the reason.





Why do you have a dilemma? You love him, be there for support, and enjoy the relationship - he's got stuff to sort out, of course, but that will get taken care o eventually. If you are ready to be with a divorced man, does he have children? You may have to prepare yourself the ex trying to make your lives as difficult as possible. (If I knew what I know now, would hvae never chosen a single dad for my hubby, because of the way his 'baggage' is. - God bless him I love him to death). Don't rush, enjoy, and if it's meant to be, and that's what you both want, it will all happen. Just go with the flow.