How To Leave Someone.........?

How do you break up a long term (3.5 year) relationship with someone you truly love? This is the case, it's been 3.5 years and he has not willingly spoken about marriage or an engagement.





I'm coming to the end of the road. He's not showing much committment to our future, but I do love him dearly. If he would propose, I'd could spend the rest of my life with him.





But, marriage is important to me for many reasons. These include emotional, religious and spiritual reasons.





How do I go about breaking off the relationship when you love someone?





We don't live together, btw.How To Leave Someone.........?
Honey, I've been in the exact same situation as you twice before. Trust me babe, it's a killer decision to make, but you feel you have to.





Just do what I did, though. It was easy, and I never really had to make any decision. Just kill the man. Problem solved.





I hope I helped. I know the trouble you are facing right now.





xoxoHow To Leave Someone.........?
There is no right or wrong way because anyway you look at it it's going to be difficult on both of you. Don't drag it out just do it and if you actually do it he may run back ready to commit because he will realize how much he needs you. (maybe)
Just sit him down and talk to him. Say I need to know where this relationship is heading because I would like to marry and have a family. If it's not going to be with you let me know right now. If he doesn't give you the right answer, be prepared to walk out and stay out.
Well, you shouldn't leave until you lay out your feelings and concerns to him. Have you discusssed marriage? Is it in his long term plan? It seems like in the 3.5 yrs that you have been together this would have come up in a conversation?





Sit him down and tell him how you feel. Men don't want to pressured or to be given ultimatums, but you can talk to him about it in such a way that he doesn't feel threatened.





Tell him how much you love him and that you see your future with him alone, and see if he feels the same. Tell him one day you hope to become his wife if that it is God's plan. (I'm not sure if you are a Christian) Tell him to be married to him would be the ultimate blessing and see how he reacts.





Above all, be patient, and LISTEN to his opinion, concerns and fears.


If at that point he tells you that marriage is not for him, then you have to decide to stay in the relationship, or whether to move on. That will be a make or break decision.
Oh, I'm sorry -- It is not easy to break off a long-term relationship. It will be a great loss for you, and you should approach your needs with kindness and comfort in mind for yourself. You will feel a lot of hurt %26amp; pain, and you will have to nurture yourself through it.





You can't ';make'; him do what you need, so just realize that fact. Sometimes love alone is not enough to keep a relationship going. And one person can't make a relationship work alone.





You can keep reassuring yourself that you have a better idea of what you really need now %26amp; that you are going to find it. This might make it easier to say goodbye, but it probably won't. And that is simply what you must say -- ';goodbye.';





Hopefully, you will find a guy who will value marriage as much as you do. And then you will know he is totally into YOU, and not so much into himself.
Have you hinted that you are interested in marriage? Men are sometimes dull, and he might not know you want a lifelong commitment. If you have given him tons of clues, and even told him how you felt, and he is not moving. I would explain to him that you love him, but you are looking for more than just a short term commitment, and you don't think he is, so I am breaking up with you so I can find someone to spend my life with.





If you phrase it this way, he will realize that your serious and he will either: Say good bye, or make a promise of some sort.





What ever you do, don't give him an alternatim: If you don't propose to me, I am leaving.. It has to be HIS idea, otherwise he might grow to resent you.
Ask him about it. If marriage is your goal, and he doesn't want to get married, tell him that. It will be rather natural from there, I think.





By the way, that is not what is called an ultimatum. Because you are just telling him what you want, and if it's not what he wants, then that's just how it is.
hop on the bus , gus . just slip out the back , jack . make a new plan , stan .....
Just keep in mind the reasons you decided this would be for the best. Have you heard the song ';Thank God for Unanswered Prayers';?
If you love him so much, why do you have to leave him if he hasnt proposed? Women propose to men, are you too proud or sumthin? Why dont you propose and get it out there and engage in a conversation, that of which im sure you avoid. What is marriage anyway, the be all, end all,? then what, you both go back to your seperate lives with a marriage certificate in your hands. If you wanna leave someone you love and gamble with your games of he hasnt proposed, your just a drama queen, in need of this BS. Your watchin too much TV. Become a scencible adult and confront the situation and propose to him, if he doesnt want to,. go your merry way,. Good luck
hey luv, if your beliefs is to get marry, and if he doesn't show anything after three years. tell him how it is. Cause i know your not happy cause there is no progression in the relationship.
It sounds like you need to test your relationship. Leave him and see if he comes back to you.... Most likely if he loves you he will with ring in hand.. :)





Also, control your emotions this time. You need to be strong so he realizes that that you are not a weak person.... I promise that you can do it!!! :)
Do it in a letter, it's a little bit chicken, but it works. You can get all of your feelings out and leave the letter for him. That's the way I did it, and I could express my feelings better on paper than in person.
just get your nerve up and tell him that you dont want to date any more ,that you want to see other people, or something like that
Just be strong and do it.





You know what to say if you have tried before...





Just remember if its not work... its not working and its time to go!
First off i'm sorry your in a hard situation BUT please do not break up with someone you could see yourself spending the rest of your life with. TALK to him, tell him how you feel and tell him that your at a point where you need to know if you can depend on a marriage in the future he says yes GREAT he says no THEN tell him you need to go your own way bc marriage is very important to you. I'm sure if you've been together this long he will respect your honesty either way.


Maybe this sounds like a hard thing to do but after reading your post I think it would be a much bigger loss to walk away from a relationship before giving it a last chance.


Good luck and I hope this helps.
ask for the last time ,make an effort, if you love him try again, if he disagrees,well i am sorry there is nothing much left...but you have to understand that marriage is a biiig decision, and you both have to agree on it.good luck
TRY.. talking with him and not y/a. tell him want you want// if he don't want the same thing then tell him we will date other people and see what happens
Just set a date in your head, like January 31. Mention nothing about marriage or getting engaged. It's been over 3 years and still no future plans so you need to move on. Otherwise you will find yourself 36 years old and still with him. No kids, no house, no commitment. You will be bitter and jealous of friends that have all the things in life that you want and didn't get waiting for him to ask you to marry him. Also.....don't fall for the ';I'm getting a ring soon'; when you tell him you are through because if he gets it, he won't be able to set a date. Break it off and tell him why. Let him be some other girl's problem. Go find yourself a man that will love and respect you and want to spent the rest of his life with you. This guy doesn't no matter how much you want it to be true.
You have to dig deep and do what is best for you...


My sister is in a realtionship right now with a guy that loves her and she loves... He is Jewish and she is Christian... so he doesn't want to marry her cause his family would disown him...





They have been together for more than 5 years... It's a complete waste cause my sister is mid 30's and she wants to have kids... He is almost 40 and he wants to have kids...





It's a tough decision but one you must make for yourself.. Because you are pondering it I gather that you have it in your gut feeling that this is the end of the road...





You have to go with your gut on this one. You have to do the hard thing and do what is right for you...


I won't say it is easy cause it is not. To terminate a relationship that you are 90% happy with... But you ow it to yourself that 100%





Talk to him and ask ho he feels about marriage... Don't give him an altimatum... you want his proposal to be genuine and from his heart and accept no less...





Good Luck my heart goes out to you as I have had to put two good relationships to rest based on similar circumstances...
Sit down with him and a calendar in your hands. Tell him to pick a date when he wants to make a commitment and get married. If he doesn't pick a date, than tell him, that its apparent, that this relationship is not going anywhere.
well frist off let me say sorry your going threw this,,i know it is hard..be honest with yourself and the partner,, tell him what you are looking for and see if he is on the same page or will be on the same page anytime soon. try to work it out from there and if the partner is not willing or wants to be on the same page,,then be strong and tell him how you feel and that you may have to part ways,,,i hope things go well and you be strong...
why buy the cow,when he get the milk free,idiot.
Say ';I just don't want to have a (husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend/gay lover) any more';
My first question to you is:





Have you sat down and talked to him? Have you told him how you really feel? If you have not, I would strongly recommend it.





If when you talk and he doesn't want the same things as you, you should probably end.





Best wishes to you. Always be honest and open with your communication with him.
first never give him a ultimatum as many do and regret it later. if you are ever going to get him to do what you hope you are going to have to cut the ties and be serious.this may give him time to seriously think about what hes missing and what is not out there for him and what he has.
kill yourself