Do you think it's wrong to stay with someone that you don't love?

Question to anyone who wants to answer: Do you think it's wrong to stay with someone that you don't love because they are really nice to you? Would it be better to break up with them, even though they haven't wronged you? Just for the fact that you don't feel that big ';love'; that may or may not exist? Just a hypothetical that I'm throwing out there. I mean, in some countries people whose marriages are arranged can end up living a happy and contented life. Is it wrong to end a relationship because you don't feel butterflies when you think of the person and you just generally don't miss them when they are not there? Or when they are there you feel annoyed? Do you think staying with that person even though you don't love them would bring you bad Karma? Or should you just be satisfied with a relationship that is comfortable but nothing breathtaking? Just wondering for a friend of a friend. you know how it goes.Do you think it's wrong to stay with someone that you don't love?
There are as many different relationships as there are people I think. Its not really a black and white thing, the simple fact is that couples will be together (and break up) for a range of different reasons. You can be immensely physically attracted to someone with the biggest butterflies and CRAZY HOT chemistry... But is that what love is?? What if he treated you like crap, or you couldn't last two days without screaming at each other?





I see what your saying though. I think that physical attraction is crucial either way. Other then that, why your with the person just depends on the individual, love them or not. Of course in reality a high percentage of couples in this world are together for reasons beside love..





I think the people who come into your life come for a reason. You learn from them and they learn from you... You dont necessarily realize it, but you teach each other the things you need to be taught. You arn't always necessarily good for each other but thats part of it.





I dont believe just because you know you'll never marry the person your dating justifies breaking up with them. If your both happy together - in love or not in love - then enjoy it, have the experience, learn from them, teach them and live your life.Do you think it's wrong to stay with someone that you don't love?
It's wrong to lead someone on.





If you feel nothing for them, but you're staying with them, they might not have wronged you but you're doing wrong by them. You have to be honest.





In the long run it's better. It is. You won't hurt them so much. It'd hurt more if you stayed with them and let them believe you felt for them like they did for you.
If you are married, you exchanged vows, and breaking a vow is definitely ';bad karma';. If you are not married, then you need to communicate with your partner to work out what's best for both.
well, the way i see it,





i've had a few guys that i didnt feel emotionally attracted to, but i did physically.





and i've had the ones where i loved their personality but was not physically attracted to.
its not wrong at all. but it probably will be hurtful. but in the end, you gotta stay true to yourself. and that means being with someone you love. if i lost my butterflies, id end it, but try to just stay friends with them.
go with your heart..if you don't think that your in love, then best to break it off.. otherwise yes, it is wrong to stay with someone that you don't love.
Depends on how well they do in the bedroom. If they are a good lay, I'll keep them around. If they are terrible, well I probably wouldn't have gone on the second date
your using them, and stop wasting their time if they think you feel the same way as them.
yes wrong
Well it can be looked at in two ways. It could be deceit to the other person or if you are able to accept the person for who they are maybe you would be able to open your heart to loving them. You can't have it all in a relationship, it takes work. Why did this friend get with him in the first place? Try to rekindle those feelings and work at it. If nothing comes then it's time to end it. Do not stay in a relationship just because you feel secure. It's not fair to the other person. HONESTY is the best thing. Are you honest with yourself? With him? If not time to learn to be so you don't make the same mistakes with someone Else life.
When I was much younger, I was in a relationship with a guy who was REALLY REALLY nice... but I didn't love him. And I didn't want to be with him.





I broke up with him, and the whole time I kept second guessing myself. It was one of the least graceful break-ups I've had. I kept saying I didn't understand why I couldn't fall in love with him.





He was a little older than me, and he told me something I always remembered:





';There are lots of a nice guys in the world. You're not going to love all of them. You don't have to stay with me just because I'm a nice guy.';





It's true. Most people are nice. That doesn't mean you're going to ';click'; with all of them. Sometimes... you just don't.





It's better to break up so that both of you can look for someone you're better suited for. Now, he's engaged, and I'm moving in with my boyfriend who I am head-over-heels for. It was better for both of us.
you only stay with someone if you love them - if taht is not there then its no point is it? yes we all know how it goes...


a good relationship is based on ';friendship'; first then if the other is good then you make adecision between the two of you if its going to happen... so, if hteres nothing else you can make a pact of frienship or nothing at all........... should nevr go into anything unless you are really sure about it and that is in evry aspect of your life! not just your love life!


if you;re not missing them then its not happening is it?!
how did you come to be with someone that you dont love? i mean, if youre an autonomous individual and it's not a forced or prearranged situation...how did you come to be with him/her? there must have been something there to begin with, some mutual love or affection.





I think that the 'mind' is capable of many things...especially loving someone who loves us. if you are distracted by being in love with someone else then you should wonder how you got yourself in that position with someone you dont really love as much and give that person the freedom to let someone else in their life to love them back. peace
well for me, you better get out of the relationship. find someone you love because in this relationship, it's one-sided. you will just take him for granted. in the future, when problems arise, you don't care if it gets fixed. you will not lift a finger to straighten up any misunderstandings. it all depends on you. maybe you will find someone you will love and he doesn't love you back but it all depends which one you prefer, the one you love and but doesn't love you back (you are just happy loving him but this is painful but still, just the thought the you love him makes you happy) or the one who loves you but you don't love him in return. as they say, you should love without expecting anything in return. the best way, is the relationship you should have MUST be God-centered or if you are not Christians, you should have the same faith.