How do you get over someone that you truly loved, but there love for you was only based on lies?

see i was with this guy for about three months, we knew each other for almost 6 months before then, but the three months we was together we spent all three months together 24/7 everyday and i thought things was goin well, in fact i started to think it was too good to be true. well after 2 1/2 months went by i began to believe it was too good to be true and my thought began to turn into a reality which i began to feel insecure about my situation cuz he started to act funny, he wasnt acting like he used to and i started to question our relationship which made me worried. it kinda seemed like he was pushing me away and at the time, i tried so hard to not believe our relationship was coming to an end but i knew deep down that it was ending sooner then later and that scared me cuz he was my everything. the other half of the last month we was together was horrible cuz truths where being revealed and of course i didnt want to believe them so i tried my best to keep my cool and jus go wit the flow knowing everything he was telling me was a lie, but what could i do? i was in denial and everybody could see it but i didnt want to believe it. then the day came that he packed up and gave me a bogus story of why he was leaving, which i knew it was a lie but i didnt care i was jus so hurt and confused i didnt know what to do at that point, so i bagged and cried for him to stay, and he was such a good actor that he actually had me convinced he was sad a hurt that he was doing this by also sobbing in tears like i was. i did everything for him, i put up with his shyt and all his stupid stunts he pulled, i bent over backwards for him, i loved him the way people should love each other, i loved him the right way to love people but he was so stupid with the choices he made, and he made the worst mistake by leaving me. i soon found out later on that he didnt leave for the reasons he told me he was leaving for, he actually left me for someone els. im not tryin to be disrespectful but the person he left me for is very unattractive and i think might also have a mental problem for shes on ssi, so am i but i think shes really gullible and believes everything he tells her which is funny cuz he found out the hard way im not a retarded idiot like he expected me to me. well its almost been four months sence he left me and im still heart broken, not as bad as i was when it happened but i still havent got over it, i was so in love wit him and still am but i know he'll never feel the same way about me. i can read almost every man i come in contact with and i can tell them exactly what there about before they even open there mouths to me, but with my EX i cant get into his head like i can other people and it frustrates me cuz i dont know what hes goin to do next. i guess what im askin is for some advice on getting over and forgetting someone you truly loved so much? i dont know what i should do and its like hes haunting me everywhere i go hes in my head. so if anybody has any suggestions or good advice plz dont hesitate. my heart is dying from this and i jus want to heal and get back into the game and be happy again cuz every man i come in contact with i cant really emotionally and mentally get attached to them cuz i cant get my EX outta mind and heart. so plz help me!!How do you get over someone that you truly loved, but there love for you was only based on lies?
that happens to a lot of people. it takes time. You'll probably always have scars, and you probably can't read him well becuse you care so much about him. If you think about it, what he did was a hurtful thing to do, keep that in mind every time you start to think about it, and then maybe you can finally see he isn't worth all this hurt. You've probably heard it a million times, there are other fish in the sea, and eventually you will find more of them, and while the next one, or the next one or the one after that might not be the one, eventually, you'll find a nice guy and he won't do that to you. Just use this as a learning experience. If you need to, delete him off myspace, get rid of old letters and gifts, all the things that remind you of him, and keep what makes you feel good about who you are. It'll take time no matter what. After a few years, you'll probably forget he even existed, and be wondering why you cared so much when you have so much to look forward to. Sometimes when you feel like you're in a shitty situation, its good to look to your future and think about how you'll think about the situation 5-10 years from now. it totally wont matter anymore. just hang in there.How do you get over someone that you truly loved, but there love for you was only based on lies?
wat i did was i got rid of anything and everything that had to do with him...basically erase anything that reminds u of him and when the right guy comes along ull get over it...good luck...i feel ur pain i'm in a similar situation rite now and i'm stuck in between and i just wish i never even met this foool but what can u doooo right? u gota use everything as a learning experience and hope for the best =)
The fact he was trying to push you away early one seems he had reservations early one. And as you fell in love he didn't feel the same. He may have paniced and resorted to lieing to get past this problem. If this the case it might be alot harder to accept but you both forced a relationship that wasn;t going to work.








However if he highly manipulative and was doing all this to get what he wanted, you are fare better off without him. and the person you loved was a manipulation designed to appeal to you. That is not who he really is. So