Is it possible to love someone too much?

Hi this account was given to me by my sister but i'm a male my name is Aric and i'm also 16 and i have a question.





So this is my situation. I met this girl a while back cant remember when.. but i know 100% shes the one and she says the same. I think of her all day but allot of times it makes me sad to think about her because due to the past(i'll explain in a bit) i tend to think of ';what if i lose her'; or that i am not good enough.. and when i talk to her about these things she asks why it makes me sad and i dont wanna tell her im afraid to lose her too much cause it might start to annoy her and she'll give up.. but shes always reassuring me when i ask her that we arent ending and she only loves me and all this other stuff pretty much summing down to our plans of getting married.we are engaged and i can't imagine being with anyone else. but I feel insecure when im not with her at the more public places she goes (fairs,the mall,etc) i trust her but other people they try and it makes me mad and its been the reason why my other relationships died out and thats the last thing i want to happen here so ya it constantly worries me still shes gonna leave. She has never cheated shes really down to earth type she's real and not fake like most. though the story seems to kinda went off topic i am needing help in all this really bad cause i'm about ready to breakdown from it all.. but as for loving her too much idk if its that or the fear of losing her thats constantly making me sad. When i'm with her though i smile the whole entire time because thats just how happy she makes me But like last night*a while ago if you dont read this for a few months or so* i was pissed off at the world cause i was trying to find her her sis and her sisters Bf but i was at the fair and had to meet some people for tickets before which was all the way on the other side and it was hot. so i was pissed off for a good 2 hours then i found them and was still kinda mad at everything. She asked me to pleas ebehappy and smile but iw as pisse doff so sjsut said ya and kinda smirked then went back to my mad-ish face and i feel so bad that i did that. but i was happy after and introduced her to my mom and so on.. but the point is i feel really bad and like what if it was my ';screw up'; and things dont work now or something. i may sound overly scared about losing her but i love her so much i cant help but think of how bad it would hurt if i did.


*the story of what happened in the past*


Since i was 12 i had gfs cause i've always liked the idea pf having someone that you can just be yourself around and enjoy being with it was just a matter of finding the right one. when i was 15 i dated allot more girls and there were those ones where ';puppy love'; was involved in the relationship just at the time then you dont wanna admit it. but thinkin i was in love i gave it most of what i could. and in all 13 of the relationships i thought were it they all cheated on me though i started to lose feelings for them before i knew they did it it still hurt and really hurt how i trust people. so thats my other problem is trust which leads back to the previous story i told. i aint sure how much sense this story makes but if you can PLEASE help i just never want to lose her and need some advice on what to do.Is it possible to love someone too much?
No Aric... You can't love some one 'too much'. Real love just is. What we do with it and how we handle it could at times be inappropriate nor overwhelming! I think this is what you are experiencing.





What I can see is... you are over-loading this with 'the baggage' ! It is good that you realises this now and looking for a solution before you sabotage it.





I would actually first of all get the feeling all clear within you and tell her the truth calmly %26amp; without any of the drama nor emotion overload!





For example: You may say that you have such strong feelings for her that it overwhelms you and trigger your fears. So, you are working on it and getting help to make sure you don't sabotage your connection with her. Tell her that you understand that seeing you sad while you are telling her she means a lot to you is confusing and that she is not the one who makes you sad, your fears are. So, while you are working on these fears, to show her that you are happy with her, would she please have patience and make some allowances for you if you act out of sync at times. If she is what she is telling us here, she will undertstand (allow her to have some emotinal reactions though, it will pass).





Set a time period for review. Set some boundaries that you are both comfortable with. Show her some progress as you make them.





In the mean time, try to not have any expectation that she will wait for you nor that she history is going to repeat itself.





If she really has true feelings for you, one day things will work out well. Stop focusing on loosing her but how to shed your baggage and keep her!





You know you must do this and sort out these fears anyway, yes? Better to do it now than later.





Stay friends in the mean time and remain within safe boundary for you while you are working on it.





You should get some counselling or professional help - there may be free ones or one that you can exchange something for (e.g. lawn mowing %26amp; car washing for a kind psychologist?). With such repeated early experiences like this, I would say that the issues stem from earlier than just 'dating'. Dig out the root of this weed now!





Do it for your future happiness. Life should be guided my love and not fears!





Good Luck.Is it possible to love someone too much?
yes, and its dangerious. it can kill you. if the person you love dies, u can die of heartbroke. etc.
what a way to ';KEEP'; someone, to try to kill them. Primordial attempt. she knows that, all that. but not from your books but from Him. Many ways lead to the Goal. it takes so much wisdom to know yourself. we are all the same yet so different, so many of us just want to hit the first person that is weaker than us, first chnace we have. You have been also tested by Him wheter you would hit the person weaker than you if appears before you. Now we know. You would and you did. But spiritualy weaker means deeper. Ultimate knowledege is so humbling that makes you so weak so weak yet so strong not to waste your life for the immature. They need to grow to the point realizing that ALL PEAPLE ARE WEAK, we are all the same. But how would you and your other half know that and LIVE that realization when you believe that weakness is not the sign of maturity but disadvantage and disfunction. Thing. Who is weak and ';disadvantaged';? Sensitive people abused in their childhood, fighters that at some point in their life realize that the fight for ';justice and freedom and equality'; is just an elementary school dream, not a reality. Reality is also not to fight, you have done that already and it didnt work. Reality is to fight but for what and for who? First for yourself and all that is good and soft and caring in you. No labels and no prejudices about ';this is good and this is bad'; but what truly is good. natural is good, secrate. natural is a way out not the artificial world of mental prejudices. Oh you have kept us in darkness for ages, ages and ages of you religius people only caring for the order. Like He cares for order. He cares for each individual, each soul. For the good ones the most.