How do you get someone you love back?

My girlfriend of 9 months decided she wasn't happy in our relationship anymore so ended it based on that, just over a week ago. It was her decision.


She wanted space, and i gave this to her. But on friday she emailed me, text me, and got desperate saying that she wants to meet up to exchange stuff, then it turned to meeting up to be friends.





What does she want?


She has told people she 'wants to be friends with me, but no more'





Im so upset about this. I want the girl i love back.How do you get someone you love back?
This is hard.





What she wasn't happy about in your relationship is important. If it was literally that she didn't -feel- happy, then she is out of reach my friend. If it was for some thing like habits or hobbies, you have to decide if that is something worth changing, without changing who you are. If it was something to do with feelings, affections, or sex... that is usually just an incompatibility.





It sounds like she misses you, but this -always- happens when you break up with someone. You miss how they made you feel, but as soon as you are together for long enough, you remember why you broke up. That only applies for her in this case, but it is unfair for her to say she just wanted to be your friend. That is selfish of her.





As always, communication is key. Ask her why she had to leave. Tell her that she is important enough to you to try to make changes in your life.





... Just don't change WHO you are, or the thing will fall apart violently before the end.





Good luck.How do you get someone you love back?
i most definately agree with turok