5 year relationship, ended because of culture/religion differences. Now engaged and can't stop missing him?

Mid last year, I had to end a 5 year relationship with someone whom I love, and most importantly, someone whom is/was my best-friend.





The reason behind the breakup is culture and religion. Reasons which should not stop anyone from being with someone they love but sadly, they do.





No one from my family (or his) knew about our relationship. 70% of my (and our friends) never knew about our relationship (at least not officially). Even though, him and I would meet up EVERY day, regardless of the weather, work, or other commitments. We would always make time to see each other every day. For 5 years.





Back to reason for breakup, I have been under a lot of pressure from family (and others) to get married. Knowing I can't get married to him, I broke up with him. We mutually broke up, cried together, but both understood the reasons.





Half a year later, my family introduced me to someone (from same culture and religion). Long story short, we got engaged. Call it arranged-marriage or whatever you like - you're probably right.





Now, a couple of months after my breakup with the man I loved, I can not stop thinking and missing him.





We still meet up (since he used to be my best friend, and I one of his very very few friends), I wish he would do something to hurt me so I can forget him and move on with life but he is too sweet, kind, and in my eyes, he is perfect.





I love him extremely, and I don't even know what to do.





I fake my happiness about the engagement to everyone (friends, strangers, ex, and even my fiance) - little to people know how much I cry every night.





Sorry for this extremely long post, but I am beyond sad, confused, and very alone.





What can I do?5 year relationship, ended because of culture/religion differences. Now engaged and can't stop missing him?
Your going to be miserable your whole life if you marry the new guy, I know that some cultures are very strict on cultural relationships,BUT, a parent love is a parents love. You should do what you can live with for the rest of your life, your parents may not understand and will give you a very very hard time about it but they aren't the ones that have to live with the decision, you do, your parents will come around even if they never totally accept him they love you and will eventually understand. Your talking about the rest of you life, can you handle a man you dont love for the rest of your life?5 year relationship, ended because of culture/religion differences. Now engaged and can't stop missing him?
How can you survive marriage, if you plan to tie the knot with somebody you don't love at all? This is a mistake. Correct it at once. Be with the one you love. I am telling you don't make mistake you are gonna regret for the rest of your life. Go on go to the one you truly love. Make yourself happy. Be the captain of your own soul, master of your own fate.





Why would you do things just for the sake of pleasing other people? Would they be there for you when you are crying your hearts own in the deepest of the nights?
You only get one shot at this life. If you are this upset over marrying this other man, then don't!





As long as you are over the legal age, your culture and religion are only as big of a barrier as you let them be.





Your two options, 1) upset your family and go for the man your truly love, or 2) get over it and go ahead with your arranged marriage.





Do you truly think your friends and family would hate you that much if you did marry the man you love? I am sure that they would eventually come around and see their daughter's happiness!