Okay so my boyfriend says we are in a ';Toxic Love'; relationship..?

he is going to law school in 2 weeks..and works full-time. he is commuting only 20 minutes away. and i agreed that i would be there for him and if i can only see him once a week for a few hours i understand. I myself am a court reporter so i don't have too much free time on my hands either. Yesterday, he told me he wanted to break up for his first year of law school and just be friends. I dont see how your go from a relationship to being friends after intimacy..i just dont see it. And i believe it should be vice versa. first you are friends then you develop a relationship when he told me, I was shocked and basically took a nervous breakdown. why he would think we are in a toxic relationship is beyond me when i am understanding that out time is limited. To be honest, i am probably more busy then he is going to be studying. Transcripts takes days to do. so can someone please tell me if im in love with a psycho to assume our relationship is toxic?? then after he said he just wanted to be friends yesterday he called me today and we spoke and he agreed we can still be together but i just cant put him under stress which are not my intentions. court reporting is enough stress! please give me some advice. i did research on the toxic love and most of the things it says are how he feels, not me. After 6 months i don't want to let him go. It's as if things changed over night and his mother plays a major role in this also. she embeds things in his head like you need to focus on you. of course, and i understand that. but why should he end a relationship cause she says so or because our time will be more limited like i said i will be time-consumed myself so i dont understand why he thinks this is toxic..Okay so my boyfriend says we are in a ';Toxic Love'; relationship..?
Well you cannot define him. He is what he is. He has done what he has done.





In an intimate relationship there are certain fundamental laws and rights. One of those laws is security. If you are in an intimate relationship you need to have love and a long term committment. An intimate relationship means one side is equal to the other. What one side does affects the other side. He has clearly stated that he does not welcome you as a cause in his life. He does not want your effect on him. He has broken the fundamental law of an intimate relationship.





On the other side, you are free to accept the violation and release yourself from any obligations to this relationship. In fact you have no other choice. If you hang on to a broken relationship you are being walked off the edge of a cliff and there is only one consequence to that - and it is not the kind of intimacy that you are looking for.





You are caught in a snare - how like a lawyer - you are wondering ';why'; and ';how'; and ';why did I not see this coming';. You are standing in the wind trying to reassemble a bridge made of tissue paper all by yourself. Do not be a fool.





There is no why, maybe there are a thousand whys, maybe he can compose a list of them and send them to you slowly over the next few months, ever so slowly, just enough to keep you preoccupied while he pushes his boat away from the shore and when you come out of your daze he will be a dot on the horizon.





I have some good resources to help you understand the controlling psycho freak does not make any sense relationship:Okay so my boyfriend says we are in a ';Toxic Love'; relationship..?
i think u should look for somone else because when someone saythat they just want to be freinds thats not good..





but in my case they always came back RUNNin lol
I would be concerned he said that.


He has committed doom on the two of you.


seems like to me.
My advice is that if he truly wanted a relationship with you he wouldn't be saying all these things! Sorry but leave him and find yourself someone new, it's a better option in the long run. He's giong to end up hurting you more if you stay with him. DUMP HIM IMMEDIATELY. Good luck honey :)
It's not toxic...not on your end anyway. Sounds like Mom might be toxic. You sound reasonable %26amp; rational to me. And your right, you can't go from being lovers to friends. He sounds like he's opening the door for future relationships in law school without having the guilt of hurting you. I think you should move on Hon, your already under a lot of stress from work %26amp; you don't need the added worry of this long distance relationship. He or Mom will always find a reason for you two not to commit. Good Luck!
it sounds like he feels being in a relationship with you would drag him down. And you say you don't want to let him go, you had a meltdown, so let him go. Never try to ';make it work'; when somebody wants to be free of you. No man wants a clingy unstable girl dragging them down when they are trying to move ahead in life.


You'll meet someone else in time, just focus on being you, and getting more secure with who you are, not that you ';need'; someone.
okay well stick with him. he must be going though hard times in law school. and if you really loved him then stay with him.





you guys seem like a cute couple stay together especially because he's in law school and it seems like he has a good education.





and its only 20 minutes a day and if u really wanted to se ehim join the college thats he's in and if its too expensive you should rent an appartment outside college campus.