How do you end the relationship without breaking someone's heart?

My girl and I have been together for a lil over a year now. She is ready to take everything to the next level, marriage kids the whole nine, but i'm not. I have told her this on my occasions. Well I get a call from David's Bridal the other day to confirm my tux size, WTF. I love her and I dont even know if I am in love with her. I wanna take a break so I can clear my head and get things outta my system before i am met at the alter. She tells me all the time how much she loves me and how much i mean to her, which gets to me. I feel as though imma really hurt her and I dont want to. HELP!!!!How do you end the relationship without breaking someone's heart?
dont end... it just ask her for some spaceHow do you end the relationship without breaking someone's heart?
explain that it's gone really fast and you just want things to slow down for a while so you can decide what you want. It's never easy but you can't live your life for someone else :)





p.s 1st answer can kiss my bum ;)





all the best and merry christmas
Communication is key and it looks like theres not enough. Due to the nature of the relationship, I don't think you can make a break and not break someone's heart. Bring a child in to the picture and if the relationship isn't solid, it can open another can of worms. Be honest and don't make excuses. If you need time, explain to her that's what you need and the reasons. Obviously, it can go either way - you'll love the freedom or you'll be miserable. Talk things through with her - you owe it to each other.
my advice is totally get away from her and go on a holiday for about a month somewhere. you will either miss her alot or not much and that should decide your feelings for her. let her know that you are leaving just to clear your head and to help you understand things better but not to hurt her or anything like that.


i hope ive helped but maybe you should let her know again when you are saying all of this that you arent ready for that type of relationship.
UGH!!!!!!! LOSASHA! I'm gonna call upon the powers of my fist so I can KICK YO ***!!!!!








Your also very hypocritical, you question why I am here all the time but yet............I could ask you the same question. Hypocrite. But then again, you religious folks are always so blind sighted by your own faults and 'all knowing' about others.








EDIT: Well if I'm going, your going there with me.





EDIT: Perhaps when we meet in hell, we can do something about that dreadful hair color of yours, eh?





EDIT: How funny considering you ARE an asshole.





EDIT: Obsession? No! Undying love and sympathy is more like it. You on the other hand. FUGLY DISEASED HATE! Pathetic.





EDIT: Why yes Losasha, you see he taught me more than you could ever hope to know. Your worthless and you know nothing of what you preach. You stick to false stereotypes, and above all your hair is FUGLY!





EDIT: Like I said, more than you could ever hope to know.





And just for the record, I'm not following you in case your wondering, I just stumble upon you within the questions I'm about to answer and teach you a lesson, that's all. It's own fault for being so damn nosey in this community.





EDIT: Right.............because you ARE one. Idiot. *rolls eyes and shakes head*





EDIT: Now now! Didn't your precious bible state ';Judge not lest ye be judged';


Hmmm, doesn't that mean your going against your own religions wishes?!?! Oopsie, there's more of that infamous Religious Hypocrisy! TISK TISK!





EDIT: When I get to heaven, don't worry I tell him you send your love from the inferno of hell. Don't worry. HA! YOU CAN'T WIN *****!





EDIT: And you know this how???? Ah well, it don't matter. I'm tired of this, and your boring me. SIGH! I'm off to bed with my hubby. You just do your thing and keep harassing people on Y!, see where it gets ya! LOLZ!!!
Think logically and don't let guilt play any role. There is nothing to feel bad about, because you are not rejecting her as a person or a friend. You can still hold on to everything that is good about the relationship while letting go of the commitment. You can still be her shoulder to cry on, and you can let her know that you aren't abandoning her as a person, by helping her after the break-up. The difficult part is getting it out there. After it is said, the healing will begin. You can say something like, ';I want to hold on to the good things we have, but I need to let go of the things that aren't right for us.';
well, tell her the truth!!!