How do I end a relationship with someone I truly love but I don't think we are right for each other?

Now I know relationships take a lot of work, but sometimes I feel that we are just completely different people. We've been together on/off for 5 years. I know I love this woman more than anything in this world and I would do anything for her, but there are times where I think to myself whether or not she really is the one for me. Just the way I want to live my life and the things that i want to do, is almost the exact opposites. We have gone back and forth so many times to really see if we could make this work. But everytime its on, eventually we reach that point where we both just can't handle it. I'm tired of feeling this way, and even though I know I love her, I think I need to let her go and I don't exactly know how to go about all this and try to make her understand. It's always been me to end things and I guess the reason for that is because I'm the only one that sees this. How do I make her see what I see or at least understand where I'm coming from. This is probably one of the hardest things I've ever had to do, to walk away from the one you love the most.How do I end a relationship with someone I truly love but I don't think we are right for each other?
You are correct in your thinking that it isn't working. You may love her but you know down deep there is an unsettling feeling within you. After 5 years you were hoping all was working out but it hasn't. Now you need to make the move because you know she won't.


Just be honest with her and let her know how you feel. True, it is probably the hardest thing you will ever have to do. It is your life too, and she needs to want you to be happy with or without her.How do I end a relationship with someone I truly love but I don't think we are right for each other?
Something is obviously missing for you in this relationship. If you keep breaking things off with her, you've already broken her heart every time so what is so different about this time? You keep going back to her and repeating the process and all you're really doing is hurting her more. So just end it and don't go back, that's it.
Only you can do that. If you've been on/off for that long, then there is a problem with the relationship. Have a long talk with her and go from there.
It sounds simple to me - we love each other but neither one seems to be able to work out a solution where we no longer have all these differences issues... so my need and your need to live different lifestyles, trumps our love..





Really, you love her... or you do not... you do not love someone and then hate the way they live their lives.. and if you respect the way she lives he life but its just not for you, then something is wrong with you...(or her if the situation is reversed)...





It's not going to be any different in any other relationship... you will end up alone -- or end up repeating the same arguments with different women...





Love is an action - not just a feeling.
I left a LTR that was filled with neglect, disrespect and misunderstanding. I tried to tell him I was unhappy until I was blue in the face. You're not happy and I'm not happy, I kept telling him, which he never denied. It didn't matter if it was his fault or mine. (a little of both, I'm sure). For a week or 2 after I left he cried, ';I don't understand';!





Go figure. I thought he was the one and I still love him. It's been 6 months now and I'm happier...much happier. Of course I was sad. Of course I miss him. But I am free of the many issues about him that left me unfulfilled. We are still in touch and you can bet your a** he understands because he hears me now.





Bottom line - search for happiness in yourself as well as in a potential partner before you say ';I love you';. You should be at least 80% happy with a partner at all times (good and bad) and 20% happy with yourself. Then your relationship will be 100% right.
sometimes u just know if that someone is not right for u but u want to hold to see things if it works ??? are u in love with her ?? do u see a future ??? u wouldnt want to be cheatting on her in the long term tho right ?? i know how u feel becos ive been there too .. i love her but i know that we are both very different and somtimes the relationship gets a bit boring ... but sometimes best to have time apart to know what u really want maybe u do love and u dont know it yet ??? if u were meant to be no matter what u would get back together ... but make sure there is no third person in it ...
Just do it as kindly and gently as possible. Tell her that you love her, but that your lives are going in different directions and that you do not see a happily ever after for the two of you. Tell her that you would rather go your separate ways while you still feel good about each other than by staying together and continuing the make up-break up cycle and feeling bitter about each other in the long run.





For a week or two, you'll have to accept her phone calls, Then, cut off all contact with her for at least 9 months. It sounds harsh, but it will be easier in the long run if you do that. There's no way you can get around this without being a bit of a jerk.





Oh, and to stop the make-up break-up cycle, do not see her in a private place, like your home, car or hotel. Then you'll wind up having sex again and be back to where you started. Don't see her outside of a public venue.