How do get over someone you love when you're in a relationship with someone else?

A little over two years ago, I met a boy (who we'll give a fake name) named Ryan, who I fell in love with as soon as I saw him. Over the next few months I tried every trick in the books to get him to date me, but sadly nothing happened. I decided that I shouldn't waste my time chasing after to him since I tried my best, and he was moving to college soon. I still loved Ryan but I tried to keep my opinions open. A few months later I started dating a boy (who we'll call Jake) that I had a crush on. We have been together for a year and a half. In the beginning of the relationship I still had Ryan in my heart, but I started to love Jake, causing Ryan to be pushed to the back of my mind, but I still remembered him. Sadly my relationship with Jake seems like it would be coming to an end soon, and these days I've been thinking of Ryan a lot more. I realized that I've always loved him, and that I want to give it another shot at trying to date him. However, Ryan goes to college in another state and I would only see him when he's on break. Also he is a social butterfly, so it's difficult to get his attention. Ever since I met him, I thought of him as my destiny, but I tried not to believe it in case I hurt myself. So should I just try to forget about Ryan and move on with my life, or follow my instinct and signs that I should try to get him to date me again, even though it would be a tough fight?How do get over someone you love when you're in a relationship with someone else?
If you're still drawn to him you should try to see what happens with him and why you think you love him so much even if you havent been together. but it most likely wont last if hes going to be in another state and you need to be okay with that and also remember that he didnt show any signs of wanting to date you so dont seem to desperate for him either.


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Get to know them better. This is not a task only to be accomplished through dating. The more you get to know him or her, the more you can tell if you like them as a friend or something else. Just talk and do fun activities with the person.


Stop and consider why you like the person. There are many physically attractive and smart people out there. But if you see something beyond that really catches your attention, you've marked this person as unique and probably like them. Why else would they stand out from so many?


Consider how many times you think about the person. If you find yourself thinking about this person several times a day, and they are happy thoughts that possibly make your heart beat faster, then you probably like them.


Think how often you laugh at their jokes etc. When you like someone, you will find yourself laughing at things even if they aren't that funny. This is a natural attempt to make them feel appreciated.


If the one conversation between you and the person is stuck in you head and you cant stop telling people about it. this means it was important to you, and you probably like the person.


Consider how much you try to be near them. If you've planned your walking speed to catch a glimpse of them as many times of the day as possible, there is a good reason for that.


Think about how you feel if you touch him or her, by accident or on purpose. If you're still thinking about brushing shoulders several hours ago in school, then that is a special thought and you probably like them.


If you feel you're ready for a relationship, and are confident enough for a positive response, then just go ahead and ask them out. If you're unsure of their feelings for you, there are several wikihows on how to tell if someone likes you.
You say you ';fell in love'; as soon as you saw Ryan, but how much time did you actually spend getting to know him? Isn't it possible that you're building a fantasy dream guy around what was largely a physical attraction, or that this rekindled obsession is your way of avoiding coping with the unfortunate risk that comes with being in a real relationship: that things may not end well?





Granted, maybe actually spending time with Ryan is the only way you're going to knock him off this pedestal, but if I were you, I'd give yourself time to get over Jake before you go chasing him. If I'm wrong and he's really your ';destiny,'; fate will bring you two together anyway.
you can't forget people you loved over night, it will be hard, but you got to put forward in your mind that you are with a guy who noticed you, loves you for who you are inside and out, and though you can't forget you love Ryan, you need to see why you love Jake if at all, if not, try to move forward with your life. It'll be hard, but in the end, you'll find what the better choice is. It seems that Ryan is like a high school crush, you think you could never love anyone else like you love him, but later on come to find you can. GL