How do you fill the void?
Im having a bad, low, night and I need some advice - please.
ThanksHow do you stop all contact and loving feelings for someone you truly love?
With difficulty. In fact, it's virtually impossible to stop loving someone you care about. I know of no way to stop the heartache, stem the flood of tears or fill that vast, aching void which swallows you up, especially when you're left on your own.
The only advice I can give you is to accept the possibility it will get worse before it gets better. Give in to the tears, mope around the house, rail against the forces that have conspired against you - don't fight the pain - let it run its course. Then, and only then, will you be able to pick yourself up and begin to contemplate the unimaginable - life without him.
I've been there, and eventually I came out of the other side, scarred and bloddied, but not defeated. Later, after the healing process was allowed to do its work, I found the man who is now my husband and we have been happily married for 25 years. I never thought it would be possible - but never say never!
Next time you feel low (and you will), send me an email. Even though we're far away, I can listen and empathise. I know you don't believe in God, but I do and, if you don't mind, I would be glad to pray for you in this situation.How do you stop all contact and loving feelings for someone you truly love?
Yes Grey Tower, I totally agree with you. For whatever reason some one leaves your life, you never totally disconnect the genuine love. I found, however, you must learn to place it in a different category, one that allows Jesus to take care of them. I also found that is easier said than done.
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Keep yourself busy ,surround yourself with people , take up a hobby ,or join the gym or something similar.You have to take every day as it comes ,some days will be better than others , but you will eventually get through it ,its hard at first but in time it does get easier
What you have to think of is that you had a life before you met him didn't you ? so whats stopping you having a life again , the only difference is that you are a bit older maybe wiser too , just go with the flow you may never stop loving this person ,but you will get used to living your life without him in it .It will be tough Stay strong.
Everyone says it takes time - so what do you do while time is passing? You have to allow yourself to be hurt. You are allowed to be angry.
What I have done in the past, is write in a journal or write a letter to the person that I love, and mail it back to myself.
When you receive it in the mail - you will be surprised at how different you feel after even a few days!
Waiting for the mail will also give you something to do.
You need to distract yourself as much as possible.
And most definitely treat yourself well during this time of transition!
i know the exact way you feel but just give it time! i no it sounds like the last thing you want to hear right now but time does heal whether you want to believe that right now!
you have to keep thinking to yourself what these circumstances are that you cant be with your true love!
try and do something fun like having a night in with you friends to keep it of your mind!
you might always have some feelings for this person but in time i'm sure you will find someone new that you will love more and who will treat you right!
i hope things work out for you and just remember time does heal!
its hard but time does help
it also helps to think about the reasons why youre not with them and think about the bad times not the good
give yourself some time to grieve as it can feel like that for a while
you will probably always love this person in a way but you do learn to live without them in your life and you wont always feel as down about it as you do now
you will feel better one day - I promise :0)
I'm sorry but all I can say is time. There's no method, but you need to self heal and realise this is how it will have to be and its for the best. Over time you'll get over them and maybe finally let them go. Keep reminding yourself it's for the best.
True love will overcome obstacles.
You cannot control feelings, but can determine your actions.
I wish you well.
lots of love to noiamnot. Will pray x
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